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Do you value custom ceremony?

You are likely reading this because a) either you already do, or b) you’re not quite sure and find yourself googling for information to make a decision. My answer: yes. Yes, I do. I value custom ceremony experiences beyond words and devote my practice to bringing these into existence. (As usual, I find myself employing words for wordless experiences!) Yet I don’t hope to stand on a soap box. I’m sharing my core values to ultimately support you in finding your way into a meaningful, uplifting and connecting experience.

And so here I am as a Life-Cycle Celebrant® in Tucson, sharing the what and why behind my core values for Sweetgrass Ceremonies: 

Core values

Core values (Photo credit: HowardLake)

MY TOP FIVE CORE VALUES

1) Expand a sense of connection

All with a sense of ease and joy between people, animal companions and place. I love to support and expand relationships amongst you, your family members and your guests, your animal friends and the special places you gather for celebration. So often the couples and families I serve have a connection to each other and the place where the wedding occurs at the center of their priorities for the event. Our work together expands and deepens this connection.

2) Co-create meaningful experiences

Through crafting, guiding and leading custom ceremonies based on YOUR stories, beliefs and values. I am committed to hearing what is important to you and then holding up a mirror, so you see these things reflected back to you in your ceremony. I infuse the universal meaning or symbolism into the personal symbols, stories or exchanges – so everyone present can tap into the meaning.

3) Offer relevant and fun ceremony elements

Ceremonies come to life through a feeling of timeless, relevant and uplifting moments. With my whole heart, I believe we open ourselves to living these moments when we lean into both the joy and the work of life or the happiness and the sorrow. I believe there is space for belly laughter and gentle tears, all during the same ceremony. Together we find expressive and fun elements to express what is true for you, wherever you find yourself in life.

4) Surpass ideas of what is possible

I actively listen to help you suss out what you want to experience and then present alternatives for both meeting and exceeding your visions. This is born out of collaboration. I love to hear your seed ideas and form collaborative unity rituals, for example, that nobody at your ceremony has ever seen before.

5) Be calm, open-minded and confident

The day of an event can be full of anticipation and even sometimes, full-on anxiety. I always arrive on the day-of feeling rested, calmly present (well in advance of ‘go-time’) and ready for whatever lies ahead with an open mind. I take this work very seriously – it is my livelihood! I am professional in every way: from how I speak to how I guide people while lining up and how I dress to the way I  wear my hair. I strongly value helping you feel calm, comfortable and confident, so naturally, it helps if I am too!

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P.S. Custom and co-created experiences open us up to a fun world of what is possible. As a Western culture, we do have some reliably staid norms around big events like weddings or funerals. As a result, people might close the door on holding the event at all, due to either having experienced the same generic sequence of events over and over, or feeling intimidated by entering an awkward fray of blending beliefs or culture in a contemporary and dynamic world.

To this sentiment I say: “Be Fearless!” Open the door to what is possible during a custom ceremony. Take a leap and value the work of co-creating a custom ceremony. Find yourself a Life-Cycle Celebrant® to help guide your efforts. Write or call me to begin the conversation! I have faith you’ll be happy you did.

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Celebrating love in Tucson

A wedding can be really simple.

As a Wedding Celebrant who helps couples create just the ceremony they want, I am certain that simple really can quite powerfully = meaningful.

Here is a great example:

Taking Vows and Celebrating Love in Sabino Canyon

I married Hayley and Michael on a calm August weekday morning. We took the tram up to one of his favorite spots in Sabino Canyon. We waded into the creek and had a very simple, poignant and peaceful ceremony to honor their joining.

The witnesses, one triathlete in training and one elderly gentleman walking by, came to stand for endurance and longevity for the couple.

How fabulous is this???!

I am so thankful to be celebrating love in Tucson.

Looking toward Sabino Canyon, Arizona, on Febr...

Sabino Canyon ~ Image via Wikipedia

Two Weddings to Remember

Every once in awhile, I connect with a couple who immediately feels like we’ve already known each other for eons. That happened last year with Carolyn and John.

Their sense of ease with one another and complete adoration for each other melted me. I’ve told a bit of their story already this year. Here’s Part One:

We met in December 2010, when John called me early Christmas Eve morning to see if I could do their elopement ceremony after Christmas. (He was waiting for Carolyn to try on wedding dresses when he called!) They were in the desert visiting from chilly Iowa.

Part One: John & Carolyn’s winter Elopement in Tucson

Fortunately, I was in town and available. I think the Universe had grand plans for us, so everything worked absolutely perfect. We met on Sunday afternoon, they answered a few couple reflections for me, and ‘voila’! After a very early morning ceremony writing session, I sent their customized script to them for review by 9AM.

They cried big happy tears upon receiving it and said “This is so truly US. We are thrilled!” We had a blast during their ceremony, with two dear friends as witnesses being present to celebrate. It was a bit surreal how smoothly everything unfolded.

And Part Two:

As is often the case for couples, they elope with a satisfying sense of simplicity. And then there are circles of family and friends ‘back home’ who really want an excuse to celebrate their union, too! Carolyn and John saw their great opportunity in celebrating with their extended circle of loved ones back in Iowa. And they chose to repeat their ceremony, with me leading it.

Needless to say, I was completely moved. And eager to fulfill their wish!

Part Two: Celebration in Iowa

We added a few very meaningful flourishes the second time. First, Carolyn’s two sons participated as the bearer’s of the wedding rings. Second, I asked all the guests for their blessings and support upon John and Carolyn’s union. (Of course they enthusiastically responded with “WE DO!”)  And third, John wrote and performed a song just for his Bride. I’m not sure there were any dry eyes in the house!

They had this Icelandic saying engraved into each of their custom made rings:

“Gued, laeder oaker aast ae-lift.” / “God guide our love always.”

And I said this on behalf of everyone before the pronouncement – more happy tears!

Thank you, dearest Carolyn and John, for this opportunity to serve you and your family as your Wedding Celebrant. I cherish our connection. And I can’t wait to see you again this winter in the desert!

John singing to Carolyn to close their Ceremony